Genes play a rather large part in who we are. People who think they can just mold people in teaching and parenting to who they want them to be are going to be disappointed
ADHD kids grow up hating themselves because they are constantly reminded of how bad they are
What if Neurotypicals were the ones who were always criticized at school? It's important to realize that a lot of the things neurodivergent's are criticized for often have nothing to do with education or learning.
Due to the later development of the prefrontal cortex in the brain emotions often take the reins of the teen brain.